The traditional associations called afocha are neighborhood communities that run the
daily life of Harar citizens, particularly in regard to the rites of
passage such as weddings and funerals. Each married adult is expected to belong to an afocha, that he joins because of physical proximity and that he adopts through a hereditary transmission process. In this way
certain individuals represent their families for more than six generations in the same afocha,
which goes to explain today how one might live in a neighborhood other than that where the
association is to be found. The association can include up to a hundred members of the same
sex—as there are afochas for men and afochas for women.
An afocha is made up of nine officials—a president, a treasurer, a secretary, a
coordinator responsible for funereal ceremonies, someone responsible for noting those late
and those absent, another in charge of telephoning members of the group to inform them of a
death, a vice president, a vice treasurer, a vice secretary. Each member is required to pay a
contribution to the association and, when he is absent or late in attending a reunion, he can be
asked to pay a fine.
When there is a wedding or funeral, each member participates in the ceremony in one
way or another—one is responsible for digging the grave, another to carry the dead, etc.
When there’s a death, the afocha attributes a sum of money to the family of the deceased, a
sum that can vary according to the association in question. The afocha thus is a traditional
system that maintains social cohesion among Harari citizens through solidarity and respect for
the rules of life in society and within the religion.
LOVE IS A STATE OF. BEING.YOUR LOVE IS NOT outside; it is deep within you. You can never lose it, and it can not leave you. it is not dependent on some other body, some external form. In the stillness of your presence, you can feel your own formless me life deep within every other human and every other creature. You look beyond the veil of form and separation. this is the realization of oneness. This is love.
What is love? To fell the presence of that one life deep within yourself and within yourself and within all creatures. To be it. Therefore, all love is love of GOD.
LOVE IS NOT selective, just as the light of sun is not selective. It does not make one person special. It is not exclusive.exclusivity is not the love of GOD but the ”love” of ego.however,the intensity with which true love is felt can vary. There may be one person who reflects your love back to you more clearly and more intensely than others, and if that person feels towards you, it can be said you are in love relationship with him or her.